“Forgiveness” by Caleb Marvive

forgiveness, what is it, why is it important what can it do for me. forgiveness is the action or process of forgiving or being forgiven, to let go of the anger or Resentment we hold twoards others, now why would we want this ? well i can tell you from experience It can Set you free and give you a whole new outlook on life.

I want to start by saying that You shouldnt act while blinded by anger or rage because of how it can alter your perspective and you could say things that may hurt others deeply, we undermine what we capable of saying and doing when we are in this state. The words we say in this angry state can leave a large impact on someone in a bad way, when we say something in that moment we believe that’s our true feelings at first but later on we may come to regret what we say or do while our judgment is impaired. Even if the situation itself started small it can develop into something much larger even if we didnt intend it to. If the situation itself could have been resolved with an apology or a simple explanation it can alleviate the stress and anger felt in that moment after the event occurred, a little bit of forgiveness can resolve the little issues we face that affects us and i understand that the problems that might occur may start with us or someone or something else but we have the power to end it by forgiveing and accepting what is presented in front of us, by accepting the situation that is presented to us can make things easier and less complicated it can aslo help us see the full picture more clearly, it’s always easy to hold onto anger and never forgive but to really be happy we have to accept the world we see. 

But we tend to be tough on ourselves. We tend to get so involved in our own lives we forget to take a Step back and really see our Problems, issues, our anger, We let it fester and grow, we let it consume us unless we choose to face it head on and deal with the issue at hand. A common occurrence in humans is that we as a collective typically tend to not forgive Someone or Something that affects our lives in a negative way due to how It can affect us deeply in that  moment we become narrow sighted and we cant see the full perspective. We are only limited to our own perspective of the world and that perspective can be affected if we are blinded by a negativity that surrounds us. The right answer might not always be easy and may take more time to do than the wrong. 

Also the steps we take to forgive is a hard and lonely road at times, forgiveness isnt easy i know but the benefits of forgiveness outweighs holding on to the pain and anger that can change us in a negitive way. Forgiveness can give us closure, understanding, and happiness which can help with moving on and moving forward.  There is so much Conflict in our lives that we tend to desensitize ourselves to the grief that pain and anger bring us. We numb ourselves to protect ourselves but that can only help for so long before it causes a meltdown that can affect our minds and eventually our bodies. But why do we do this?

In my Personal experience it’s because it’s easier to ignore the issue at hand rather than to turn around and fix the problem, but this isn’t always true. Some people have more experience in letting it go and moving forward or fixing the problems they face. But there are people who also hold on to their anger and pain because that is all they know, they start to believe that pain and the struggle is what keeps them going, but resentment, anger, and hate can be a snake that will dig its fangs into and won’t let go, it will hold on to you while it poisons and weakens you until death. It’s unfortunate to say but people who hold onto those things lead unhappy lives that are only filled with suffering and despair. But we can lead a different lifestyle that involves letting it go and moving forward.

We as a collective can Forgive we can be better and happier. All it takes Is feeling it in your heart and letting go. We deserve to be happy, we deserve to live our lives to the fullest, why should we let others take our happiness. So we should learn to let go. There are times to stand tall, loud and proud, and other times where it’s best to let it go and walk away. You will be better for it. I can promise you that. Forgiveness is a choice so I believe we should choose to forgive because we can all be better from it.