Dear little me by anon

Dear little me, please for the love of god slow down.

I know right now all you want to do is grow up. However trust me when I say, it will come soon enough. Be in the moment. Enjoy the present. Growing up can be exciting, but don’t forget to value your childhood. Have fun. Be care-free. Take a breath. Stop rushing yourself. Trust that everything will fall into place. Time has its way of working things out. Know that you are not behind. You are exactly where you’re supposed to be. In any relationship, may it be romantic, friendship, or family, learn the importance of setting boundaries.

Learn how to say no, especially in pressuring and uncomfortable situations.  Learn to not care when someone gets upset at you for setting boundaries or saying no. Learn to let people go. Instead of begging someone to stay in your life, hold the door open for them. Let them leave. Everything happens for a reason.

Know your worth. Know that your body is not an object, it is so so much more. Please understand that there are so many other ways to receive validation, then giving the most precious and intimate part of yourself up to some teenage boy that has absolutely zero care for you or your well being whatsoever.

I promise, you may not care or realize it now but you will eventually regret it. You will wish you could go back in time and say no, or walk away. You have your whole life to find love.

I can promise you that no boy your age is dating to marry, so what’s the point.

I can promise you that he doesn’t love you, he might love the thought of you, but he doesn’t love you. intimacy at such a young age is traumatizing, to say the least.

You think you’re so grown up, but you can’t even drive a car yet. If you take anything from this letter,  let it be this. It is not normal for a boy to tell you what you can and can not wear. Not even your own mother does that. Wear whatever you want. Wear what you feel pretty in. If he has a problem with it, let it be his problem not yours.

It is not normal for a boy to control who your friends are, if you allow this you will end up with no friends.

It is not normal for a boy to tell you you’re not allowed to wear makeup.

It is not normal for a boy to scream at you for every little thing you do wrong. Has your dad ever raised his voice at you? The answer would be no. So, please explain to me why a little boy gets to.

It is not normal to have to ask for permission to run errands with your own mom or to go out with your friends. None of these behaviors are normal, they are controlling and they are so beyond toxic. Please, do not let some little boy take your freedom away. Do not let him dim your light. Learn when to walk away, and actually do it.

Be your own person. Learn to be content by yourself. Stop looking for happiness in the person that drained you from it in the first place, you will not find it. Be kind to yourself.

Forgiveness is such an important skill. Forgiving others is one thing but learning to forgive yourself is whole other. Forgive yourself for choosing to grow up so fast. Forgive yourself for staying in that abusive relationship. Forgive yourself for not waiting until you found someone that genuinely loved you.

Forgive yourself. Like I said before. Everything happens for a reason. Know that you aren’t behind, and know it’s not bad to be ahead. It just is, and you will end up exactly where you were supposed to be.